A few years ago, when I worked for Tyco Federal Credit Union, I was approached by a small publisher who felt I had a story to share. I remember letting my executive team and Board of Directors know about the opportunity. Nothing happened with that book but it did plant the seed that would grow into a bucket list item–to be published one day.
That was back in 2011. That was the same year I was trying to figure out what the next chapter of my life would be. I enjoyed the work I was doing and loved the people I worked with and my CEO, Chris Petro was someone I respected. When I had the opportunity to continue to grow into a much larger role, I had a moment of pause. I wasn’t quite sure if that’s what I wanted to do. I did ask for more money thinking that was the answer to my dissatisfaction. I got the raise and I got a lot more.
It’s down to the final days before the launch of You Only Live Once: The Roadmap to Financial Wellness and a Purposeful Life on June 7. It’s been a whirlwind experience and I can’t express the excitement I’m feeling about having this book out into the world.
This book is a conglomeration of my personal experiences and stories of many others I’ve met along the way. It’s aimed to educate and inspire, and leave you feeling hopeful about your future.
You don’t have to wait to order your very own copy of You Only Live Once. It’s now available for pre-order with some very special bonuses for folks who order a copy (or three, five, ten and more) in advance.
A few years ago, I had an idea for a road trip. I wanted to go around the country motivating people on financial education. I understood at the time that people knew the importance of personal finance but also chose not to make time to enhancing one’s money skills.
That’s because money is a social status and indicating to anyone you may not know how to handle money is a social faux pas. The reality is that we learn our money habits from our family, friends and coworkers. You might not be openly talking about your finances, but you are nonverbally communicating by the clothes you wear, the car you drive, vacations you take and the priorities you place in life.
Purpose is something much greater than oneself. When you serve a purpose you’re fulfilling a void in your life that’ll enable you to feel more satisfaction and joy.
When I wrote my book, I was originally going to focus only on money and how to help people make better financial decisions. I knew, however, that people are driven by more than just money. Regardless of the stories you hear, we aren’t striving to get the most dollars in the bank (well for the most of us), but dreaming of living a fulfilling life — a life of meaning.
Unfortunately, many of us spend mindlessly, preventing us from spending our money on the things that matter. Then, we’ll complain that we don’t have the money, to do the things we want. So we’re forced to work more hours, then complain we do not have the time to spend with our family.
It’s a vicious cycle.
It’s one that I learned to break. It’s a skill I am continuing to develop because we live in a world that consumerism and consumption is required and expected.
If you’re not consuming, you’re not living, is the belief perpetuated in our society. What this has caused — you’re purpose is only to consume. And, when you consume as much as you can, you’re supposed to be happy. If you’re not consuming or unable to consume, you’re meant to feel less of a person. You’re made to feel inadequate.
If consuming was your purpose, then look around you. You’re staring at your purpose and it’s probably illuminating your face as you read this post on your smartphone or tablet, or it’s collecting dust on your shelves and taking up room in your closets.
Purpose is something greater than things and greater than yourself.
It is not about the things you’ve bought or the things you’ve experienced. It’s how you affect your personal world and the greater world around you. It is greater than one’s self.
You can create and live a meaningful life — a purposeful life — and it starts with changing your money beliefs, improving your financial behaviors and envisioning the actual life you want to live that is representative of your values.
Gratitude. Make sure you let those who’ve touched your lives know how they’ve added joy in your life and made you smile. Let those who’ve helped you achieve milestones and goals celebrate with you. Nothing in this world is achieved in a silo and when you’ve understood that we are all somehow connected even greater things can be achieved.
You will find in life when you’re at your happiest, those repelled by happiness will leave. Those who want to celebrate in your happiness will be attracted to it and rejoice with you.
You will find in life when you’re in pain, those who love you will come to unburden and ease your pain while others compare their pain to yours. Let them go.
I’m grateful to all of you who’ve celebrated with me in my joys and have unburdened me with my sadness.
12 days into 2015.
Let’s not be saddened by the 12 days that has passed but become excited for the 353 days yet to come. Each day is a gift hence it’s called the present. Let’s unwrap each day with the hope and excitement of what’s to come.